5 TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU JUST CANT HELP

While it is good to help people in need, not everybody needs or deserves our help. So many times, we try to change people that we love because we let ourselves see the good in them that they refuse to see in themselves. But change is not something that can be forced and self worth is not something that you can force someone else to see. Although similar, everyone has their own individual life path and lessons to be learned, and they must come to this level of awareness in their own divine time. Being their emotional support system as they

develop themselves, and making yourself available to answer any questions they may have that you can positively and factually answer is all the help they’ll need. 

We usually think that everyone wants to be a better version of themselves, but trying to help someone who does not admit that they need help can drain you, and you may need to take some steps back.

How do you recognize people you shouldn’t waste time helping?

• People Who Will Not Accept That They Have A Problem: If someone thinks they do not have a problem, then they do not have a problem because they do not think or see that there is anything they need to fix. This means that if you tell them that they have a problem, not only will they be unreceptive to what you're insinuating but you will begin to push them away because in their mind you are antagonizing them.
  
  
• People Who Always Justify Their Wrong Decisions: It has become a norm for people’s trauma to become their story. Most people now become whatever their issue is and let their past dictate their actions of the present and future. This lack of accountability is just a ploy they use so that they won’t have to face their traumatic truths, and their discontent with their current reality. Over time their ego has convinced them that admitting their faults or wrongs weakens their persona or takes away their self value when it’s quite the contrary. The ego loves to distort the human mind so that we can continue our series of self sabotaging behavior. Someone who constantly justifies their poor behavior based on this belief system of falsity can’t be helped.
  
  
• People That Have A Victim Mentality: People with a victim mind-set always pin the blame on everyone but themselves whenever things go wrong. This is because they do not have the emotional maturity to accept their mistakes and hold themselves accountable. These people are blinded and really do see how their actions and choices led to their situations. People with a victim mentality are always making excuses for or denying their bad behavior. With these people, no matter how hard you try, they won’t change because nothing is ever their fault in their eyes. They have given away their power and you cannot give it to them; they have to take it back on their own and begin steering their own life in the right direction. 
  
  
• People Who Are Deceptive: Deceptive and dishonest people do not deserve your help. They are usually charming and persuasive especially when they need something from. You cannot trust them because they act one way in public and another way in private. They can trick you into siding with them or doing favors. You may be doing this without even realizing it! These types of people can lie about anything. How can you help someone if you don’t even know where their starting point is? You can’t. You’ll be going in circles trying to figure out what they’ve been intentionally eluding. 
  
  
• Disloyal People: People who are disloyal don’t deserve your help. They will take other people’s side over yours, or talk bad about you behind your back. They will most likely lose interest in you when they are done taking advantage of you, and then move on to someone else who can be more beneficial to them.

Constantly trying to help people who don’t need or deserve it will only leave you drained or frustrated. We have to remember that we can’t help everybody. Especially those who don't want to help themselves. If someone was interested in helping themselves then they would be receptive to your constructive criticism or heart to heart communication. They would spend more time initiating change rather than playing blame games. These changes may not be effortless but it will be visible or evident so pay attention.