6 SIGNS SOMEONE IS SECRETLY IN COMPETITION WITH YOU

You get to work, and you feel these unhealthy vibes coming from your colleagues. They all seem to be in competition with you. And sometimes this competition isn’t very healthy. Having people around you who support you and believe in your capabilities is a big blessing. But do you know that you can have a “frenemy” who sees you as their competition rather than a friend? People should learn and take inspiration from their friends, colleagues, and family members, but unfortunately we live in a world where people are often stuck battling themselves and that battle is often projected onto us in negative, unhealthy ways. 

A little bit of competition can be healthy in any relationship, but if your gut tells you that one of your friends is secretly competing with you, then you may need to be very careful. Below are signs that someone is secretly in competition with you.

Your Gut Tells You: If your gut is screaming at you that your friend is a frenemy or that they are secretly in competition with you, you have to listen. Your intuition is always right when dealing with people. You shouldn’t deny your gut feeling because you may find out that it was right all along.

They Modulate Your Success: People who disregard or downplay other people’s success are very toxic and annoying, and you should get rid of those people from your life. People who envy you usually desire what you have. If you notice that you have these people around you, you should start avoiding them.

They Take Pleasure In Your Failures: Anybody that is jealous and secretly competing with you will be happy when you fail. These friends are happy when you experience a setback? These people will tell other people about your failures, and they will laugh about it behind your back.

They Gossip About You: “She’s really not that great a graphic designer,” “He really isn’t that smart,” or similar comments are expressed by people who are envious and are in unhealthy competition with you. If you have friends who like to gossip, then they will probably gossip about you behind your back too.

They Imitate You: If you find out that your friend imitates you, then you should probably avoid them. Someone who competes with you on an unhealthy level certainly wants to be “equal to” or “better” than you. On a more extreme note, you may even notice that they walk, talk, and even dress the way you do.

They Engage In Sabotage: If someone is very jealous of you or secretly competing with you, unbeknownst to you, they start scheming ways of discrediting your hard work and spoiling your good name. It is not good to have someone like this around you. Once you find out your friend sabotages your efforts, start avoiding them.

A real friend will be your cheerleader and always want you to be the best version of yourself. They won’t ever see you as competition. Real sisterhoods or brotherhoods challenge the mind and force growth. They force you to see things from other perspectives and it is a bond deeply rooted in unconditional love.