THE SUBMISSIVE WIFE

What turns certain women off when they think of being submissive to their husband or significant other?

Is it because it sounds like you’re giving up your freedom, or will to act, or think independently? Is it the fear of being viewed as a woman who is impressionable? The truth is, being submissive simply means trusting your partner to effectively lead your household. It’s not a form of control; a submissive wife is not a child that needs to be directed, but an adult to be engaged diplomatically. But what are practical ways of being a submissive wife?

1. Allow Him To Take The Lead:  Allowing him to take the lead shows him that you trust him fully and that you're confident in his abilities to effectively lead your household. You should have peace and a sense of security that stems from the knowledge that your counterpart is mindful of, and cares for your well-being deeply. That’s why it’s so important to marry someone that you genuinely love, respect and admire. 
   
   
2. Be Supportive: Because there may be times when things become tough, and the crown on his head may get too heavy, it’s important that you be his emotional support system, as well as his biggest cheerleader. We all know how good it feels to have someone in your corner that believes in you and places emphasis on your limitless capabilities. During these trying times he’ll most likely be in a vulnerable state of mind, may even lose confidence in himself. Be his
   intercessor. It’ll give him assurance that you are with him, then and always and that’s a big deal.
   
   
3. Exert The 5 Love Languages: Give him words of affirmations; don’t be in such a hurry to criticize him that you forget to praise him for all the wonderful things he has done thus far. Give him physical  touch; if you want to keep the passion burning, physical intimacy  is still an effective method. Be an innovator in, and out of the bedroom. Be actively gift giving;  men like gifts. We all like gifts right? Surprise him with a gift here and there and not just on his birthday, Father’s Day or a holiday, even if he can afford it. Don’t just be a taker, be a giver, too, and most importantly it’s the thought and compassion and love that you pour into the gift that matters.  It’s not about materialism, or how expensive it is. Give him quality time; spend time with him without distractions. This will help build the emotional intimacy aspect of the relationship because intimacy isn't always just physical. Provide acts of service; do things without being asked, like borrow his keys and fill up his tank with gas. Hot meals and a clean house shouldn’t even be a question if he’s the sole provider, and a little massage on a daily basis after a long day at work wouldn't hurt either. 
   
   
4. Don’t Be A Nag: Normalize replacing nagging words with positive communication and words of affirmations. Sometimes, that’s all the motivation he needs to do more. Learn how to express yourself in healthy ways. ”This goes a long way and shows  that you care about the efforts he’s putting in, whilst bringing your issues and concerns to the forefront to be addressed. 
   
   
5. Keep It Sexy: Stay on top of those body goals, and not just for him, but for you. Keep that self esteem to a climax. Nothings sexier than a woman who’s confident in herself and is a walking example of the epitome of self love. Being authentic and confident has always been the best form of sexy for real men who recognize real beauty. It’s always been said that confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear. 

Being submissive empowers a man to lead his household effectively as it instills trust and a strong belief in his abilities to do. It not only empowers him to lead his household effectively, but enhances his confidence immensely in ways that will be positively reflected in your relationship. Whether people know it or not, the confidence a man exudes has an immaculate impact on the health of the relationship. When you make your romantic partner feel loved, trusted, respected, valued and appreciated on a daily basis it’s impossible for it not to flourish if it’s a connection based on mutuality, and this is what being submissive entails.