SELF REJECTION

Self Rejection

Self-rejection is a conditioned behavioral pattern associated with feelings of low self-esteem that manifest from the mind. It is a form of behavior where individuals do not believe in themselves, and hence, their actions and thoughts distance them from advantageous outcomes. Self-rejection derives from an overactive ego and festers to the point of outward projection, and this projection is seen on the surface level as a form of unconscious self-sabotage. 

People who are stuck in a karmic cycle of self-rejection often dwell in their flaws and failures, and their mind begins to form a thought process that hinders them from going after the things they truly desire. Self-rejection results in many missed opportunities because the people who suffer from it often feel they are not good enough or think they aren’t worthy. They also exhibit fears of rejection or abandonment which are also accompanied by feelings of failure that stem from their constant rejection of themselves. 

Signs of Self-Rejection

• Pushing People Away: People who dwell in self-rejection often push away those that care or love them. This is done because they do not believe they are worth the care and love that they are receiving and often doubt their ability to reciprocate the same care and love. They fear being a disappointment to their romantic partners and rather not be the cause of their downfalls. They are often suspicious when others show positive feelings of interest. These individuals believe that others can match their romantic interests and superiority and would be a better fit or receptor of love and devotion than they are.

• Physical and Mental Neglect: Living in self-rejection makes one believe that investing in oneself is a waste of money or time. Hence, they do not properly look after themselves or indulge in habitual acts of self-care, or things that make them truly happy. They instead continue a series of self-neglect. 

• Seeking External Validation: People who are stuck in the pattern of self-rejection often try to live up to others’ expectations, such as their parents or romantic partners, to feel validated. Sometimes the internal battle is even living up to the expectations of society and its definition of“successful”. Thus they tend to overwork themselves to impress their validators or to feel a sense of importance in the societal realm by working vigorously to achieve a high societal rank. 

• Abuse or Self Harm: Abuse or self-mutilation is an extreme sign of self-rejection. People who reject themselves may develop habits of alcohol or drug abuse and consciously or unconsciously harm themselves by putting themselves back in toxic situations. Drug or alcohol addictions are toxic situation-ships they’ve built with themselves. 

• Rejection of Opportunities: People who reject themselves dwell in a lack of self-confidence. The lack of self-confidence makes them abandon or reject opportunities for self-improvement and growth because they feel they may fail or not exceed the expectations, or in some cases, they may even feel undeserving of the opportunity and fail to take that chance. 

• Constant Comparison and Isolation: People who reject themselves engage in extreme comparisons and always think that they are never good enough or they will never accomplish as much as the people they compare themselves to. They often keep to themselves to avoid being exposed to ridicule or embarrassment due to their lack of accomplishments. 

• Readjustment of Goals: People facing self-rejection often lower the bar regarding their self-imagination because they feel they would never achieve their goals. If they aren’t lowering the bar in regards to career endeavors they are lowering their relationship standards. 

 
Consequences of Self Rejection

• Addictions to games, television, drugs, or alcohol

• Self Harm 

• Exposing oneself to toxicity 

• Feelings of depression, anxiety, anger, and shame

• Missed opportunities

• Toxic or repeated failed relationships

Solutions To Issues of Self-Rejection

• Acknowledge your feelings and always speak up

• Remind yourself of how amazing you are

• Face your fears and take risks 

• Reject negative self-judgment or criticism 

• Be open and jump at opportunities

Self-rejection is the leading cause of unused or untapped potential. Don’t allow yourself to fall prey to this systematic self-sabotage. Break free from this regime by taking back control of the mind, rather than allowing your mind to continuously take control of you. The mind has been programmed to think a certain way due to calamities that were meant to build your character and evolve the soul.  Rather than build and evolve, this programming of the mind causes one to act and believe certain things about oneself and their capabilities that are far from reality. Take back your power and cut the chords of control and manipulation of the mind and connect with the divine.