THE FINE LINE BETWEEN CHASING AND PATIENTLY WAITING

Chasing refers to maximizing efforts in hopes of meeting the right person. Every person you meet is seen as an opportunity for a relationship of longevity. It sometimes even refers to the act of forcing a romantic situation on another and creating romantic thoughts in one's head despite the other person showing no apparent interest. On the other hand, waiting implies analyzing the other individual and taking time to determine if the other person is the right person for you. It involves much patience in choosing a partner that suits your criterion. It involves indulgence in self love and self discovery first, and allowing that person to walk into your life unexpectedly second. 

It’s a fine line between chasing and waiting especially when you're over eager to settle down with a life partner. 

Here are some signs to help you identify the difference between the two. 

A person chasing relationships struggles to get attention and hence hardly ever finds a perfect match because what you chase you simply cannot catch.Whilst a waiting person cuts off those that are not ideal and does not try to make everything work with every person they encounter. They are content with being alone.A person chasing another in a relationship often tries to fit into what the other person wants for them at all costs, irrespective of what they want for themselves. The person does the needful to please the other individual and conforms to the other partner's wants and needs. They often put their life on hold for the other.A person waiting in a relationship does not feel pressured or pressed to do things only because the other person wants it. On the other hand, a waiting person is not willing to and does not change themselves to suit the demands of the other person. The accurate individual remains comfortable with how they are and believes that the right person would not demand changes that may alter their personalities or character traits.A person in chase mode tries to meet as many people as possible, trying to maximize finding the right person, or they attempt to make every person that enters their life fit  the persona of a life partner. The person may only go to places where potential individuals for a relationship can be found.A waiting person would live their lives comfortably and does not carry out such actions as an intentional attempt to find a suitable partner. They enjoy being happy with themselves and their lives while waiting for the right person to stroll in it.Those chasing relationships would believe in the proposition that lives become better after finding the right romantic partner. They attribute the source of their happiness to their romantic lives and feel depressed when a partner either leaves them, or they leave a partner and are alone in the absence of love and romance.A waiting person improves and makes new achievements within their own lives while waiting for a relationship or while with their partners. They see relationships as a bonus to their already exciting and fulfilling lives, not as a means of happiness or betterment for their own lives.

Chasing is a waste of time; time one could be spending on improving all aspects of themselves. You will always be your best investment. Those who chase will never find their perfect match because your perfect match isn’t someone that can be found, it's someone that you stumble upon when you least expect it. That’s because your focus will be so much on self that you won’t see this blessing coming for miles. The more time you focus on waiting the more you allow the right people to gravitate towards you. Don’t chase, just wait.