UNREQUITED LOVE AND WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER CHASE IT

Are you so deeply in love with someone that you can't help but daydream about them constantly and exert optimal effort to showcase your passionate devotion to them, yet more than 50% of your efforts go unreturned? The loyalty and commitment you've given to your connection surely hasn't gone unnoticed yet the love you've sheltered yourself in for so long has been left unreciprocated. Logic and intuition are the pillars of navigation through the motions of love. When we collaboratively use these two internal resources we can promote self-love and a healthy distance between us and the ones we love who aren't quite ready to share their space with us in the realms of commitment. 

The truth is we all have experienced emotional pain that affects how we govern ourselves in relevance to relationships. It affects how we choose future romantic partners and it alters our perception and negatively affects our judgment. It’s the fear of losing control of their emotions that causes them to self-sabotage or emotionally withdraw. Intuition is key as we use discernment to determine whether our love interest is emotionally unavailable and fearful to love again at that magnitude or simply not interested. Either way, both scenarios are a perfect depiction of unrequited love and you shouldn’t chase it. 

Emotionally unavailable people find it difficult to express their emotions or put in mutual effort due to their deep fears of intimacy and vulnerability. They tend to self-sabotage connections that threaten their need for emotional self-control. Love scares them. Love isn't fearful, but it's hard for those who have been left broken to see the beauty in love when they still have wounds to heal. Let them go. Give them room for growth. Give them space so that what was once damaged can be restored. Give them time to heal. 

“Letting go can be painful, but it won't hurt as much as holding on to an illusion.”  - Vex King

There is no amount of love and affection that you can give that can rush a process that was designed to take its time. There is no amount of devotion, loyalty, or passion within a connection that can force growth upon one who isn't yet ready to transform. Elevation requires separation and in those moments of solidarity, get inspired to spend more of your time and effort on growing yourselves so that you can better yourself in preparation for what's to come. This is an opportunity for a redirection of your focus which should be predominately on soul expansion and biological evolution of self.  When you truly value yourself, and your goals, and are dedicated to your ambition you'll spend more time working towards them rather than chasing relationships with people. 

In life, we often struggle with choices, especially when it's pertaining to love. We don’t want to give up too easily because society says nothing great comes easily and that what’s hard to obtain is worth fighting for, but love is easy and relationships are easy when you're ready and open to receive and when two people are putting in mutual effort. In situations where the effort is one-sided, the answer is simply to let go. We can’t chase what doesn’t want to be caught and we most certainly shouldn’t compromise our emotional health to the point of exhaustion. 

Here are some signs that suggest you may be chasing unrequited love. You’re experiencing unrequited love when you;

• Desire someone emotionally unavailable who isn't capable of reciprocating the same amount of love, openness, affection, vulnerability, and compassion that you exhibit in the relationship. 
• Desire someone who isn't growing with you nor are they mentally, emotionally, or spiritually in alignment with you. Therefore they won't know how to reciprocate all the love you bring to the table. 
• Are in a casual sexual situation-ship and your feelings become more serious while the other person’s does not. In this case, you've already committed yourself to a non-committal situation. 

Unrequited love can be confidence destroying as you continuously give all of your time and effort to someone who isn't able to or chooses not to reciprocate that energy. When we aren't whole within ourselves we leave space to internalize that rejection. You're inspired to give love freely and unconditionally without expectation but not at the expense of your happiness, internal wholeness, and peace of mind. When love is real, no amount of rationality and truth can erase our feelings, but opening ourselves up by letting go of what isn't ready to receive us creates a new way to exist. It creates pathways to self-love and gateways to transformation. 

What’s for us will always be and resurface peacefully. Endlessly it will gravitate towards us until we are ready to receive it rightfully. As we construct our futures independently of what was, we make space for miracles, inclusivity, and what will be. Whether it’s five, eight, or ten years from now, no amount of time can erode a connection founded in divinity. In the waves of change, you'll each find your direction and rebuild those foundations to withstand the longevity of your love.