MOST COMMON REASONS RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Much like what we see in romanticized movies, love is relatively easy, but a genuine soul connection between two people is what’s predominantly rare. Love is eternal and although most situation-ships we’ve witnessed or have experienced aren’t always the happy ending we’ve imagined it would be, relationships between two people who are ideally perfect for one another can certainly be everlasting. Love isn’t hard. It’s our conditioned toxic behaviors and false narratives that lead to pride and prejudice that cause people to perceive love and relationships as “hard”. For those who are in relationships where a genuine soul connection exists, if we want our relationships to last we have to overstand the main reasons why separations occur because even healthy relationships built on a foundation of connection and unconditional love require effort. 

Why Relationships Don't Last?

There are so many reasons why a relationship that's going well from the start suddenly goes wrong. Many factors determine the longevity and health of a relationship. Here are the most common reasons relationships often fail; 

• No Genuine Connection: Most of the time two people meet each other and look for chemistry and potential rather than intuitively recognizing a genuine soul connection that they both share. This is due to a lack of self-discovery and wholeness within. When we are whole and we have discovered ourselves deeply we become so in tune with our spirit and acquire spiritual wisdom and enhance our intuitive abilities to the point where soul recognitions become effortless. Long-lasting relationships aren’t built on the fundamentals of chemistry and potential they are built on genuine soul connections that are rooted in unconditional love. This is something felt deep within the core of your soul and felt strongly in your heart upon your first encounter with your soul mate or divine counterpart (twin flame). In these types of soul connections, it isn’t unrealistic to feel an immense feeling of comfort and begin mentally rewriting your future with them in it, by day 3. The synchronicity between you two will be undeniable and it will inevitably be love at first glance. 

• Poor Communication: No relationship can thrive on poor communication. Developing emotional maturity and knowing when to exercise emotional intelligence and applying that to your communication system is extremely important to a long-lasting healthy relationship. If you aren’t able to positively and effectively communicate to resolve disagreements then those disagreements will lead to conflict and too much conflict leads to toxicity. This can be challenging if you and your significant other are mentally and emotionally misaligned. Poor communication also includes no communication. Oftentimes people expect their significant others to guess what they are feeling or automatically know what they want or need in a relationship as opposed to verbally communicating that. The truth is most people aren’t in a state of wholeness to even know what their wants and needs are to be able to intuitively decipher yours. This often leads to underlying resentment which is the fuel for consistent conflicts that arise. 

• An Overall Misalignment: Most of the time two people who are impeccably right for one another can meet at the wrong time when they aren’t mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in alignment with one another. Their meeting however is intricate to their individual growth and overall life journeys as true unconditional love has been proven to invoke soul healing and expansion. True love has the power to rearrange your focus, your priorities and encourage a rearrangement of your overall lifestyle into one that is conducive to the type of environment needed for that relationship to prosper.  Forcing togetherness in a time where solidarity is needed often results in underlying feelings of resentment as well. 

• Dishonesty Or Lack of Transparency: Whether the relationship is romantic or platonic, every healthy relationship is built on mutual trust, honesty, and overstanding.  Dishonesty or lack of transparency in a relationship due to fears of vulnerability erodes trust and relationships are rarely known to flourish in the absence of it. Likelier infidelities can ultimately damage a relationship in its entirety. The truth is most people lack self-authority and haven’t evolved beyond those external validations, false confidence-boosting, and lustrous behaviors. A person must be dedicated to self-growth and committed to living a life of morality and virtue where those behaviors are completely obsolete before entering a committed relationship. Most people aren’t committed to themselves spiritually, let alone physically, mentally, and emotionally.

• Lack of Wholeness: When we’ve reached a state of wholeness through a process of self-discovery that leads to unwavering self-love, we no longer look for love in the wrong places. We begin to overlook simple chemistry and potential and begin using our hearts and intuition to choose rather than our minds and eyes. We must spend time discovering ourselves deeply to know ourselves enough to have a firm insight into who we are and develop a heightened level of awareness so that we can develop our values and principles and demonstrate a deep overstanding of those same values and principles because that’s where our sense of self-worth is derived. One must be committed to themselves fully before one can adequately commit to another and be able to adequately nurture that connection.     If you don’t know yourself and you aren’t whole within yourself then how will you know what you're truly looking for in a life partner, like what character traits you find attractive and which ones you find repulsive, or what your pet peeves are and how you identify deal breakers? How will you know if the love you found is true or if you aren’t just simply trying to fill a void? 

• An Absence of Self-Love: Self-love is a very important component of wholeness.  When self-love is absent we tend to ignore red flags and neglect our right to set healthy boundaries in relationships. We do this because we are subconsciously searching for the love and happiness we so desperately desire for ourselves from another person rather than giving that love and happiness to ourselves. This is a never-ending attempt to fill a void that will remain unfilled as we settle into situation-ships that merely provide temporary moments of comfort that ultimately lead to confusion, wasted time, and unresolved problems. 

In relationships where misalignment is present, we have to overstand that in no way shape, or form can we force togetherness when we require solidarity to grow and evolve at our own unique pace. It isn’t okay to demand or require a certain standard of someone incapable of meeting that standard. This only leads to degradement and most commonly emasculation in men. It’s unrealistic and self-centered of us to expect someone to meet us at a level that they haven’t yet met themselves. We can’t force people’s capabilities so don’t fall in love with the potential, fall in love with the person, and as long as we exercise patience, give love freely all while maintaining a healthy distance and balance between effort and surrender we can still nurture that connection without neglecting ourselves in the process and without adding to the insecurities of the one that we love. 

In relationships where there is an absence of self-love that leaves its sufferers feeling incomplete, you're encouraged to take time to get to know yourself, by yourself. Solidarity is also important for situations like these as it impels you to move forward in self-awareness and that self-awareness may inspire you to make some necessary lifestyle changes and embark on a journey of self-improvement.  Eventually, if you’ve spent enough time dwelling in that transformative energy you’ll develop a commitment to self. This self-commitment is what will keep your evolution persistent until you've reached the pivotal point where wholeness is achieved.  Only then can you truly be committed to the one that you love because you’ve committed to yourself, and you’ve committed to purpose. 

And whether it's telling a little white lie or withholding information about yourself through lack of transparency, trust, one of the fundamental pillars of a stable and healthy relationship will always be susceptible to destruction. For a relationship to prosper, both parties involved must be able to genuinely trust each other. Trust and vulnerability are the only sure ways to build emotional intimacy and that’s what thickens the bond between you both. Fortunately for divine counterparts (twin flames) those barriers standing in the way of emotional intimacy are self-destructive as they travel through their supernatural pathways towards spiritual ascension. In this connection both counterparts share a single soul thus they have the same wireframe their experiences and traumas will mimic one another’s precisely. They are energetically conjoined at the heart and telepathically connected at the mind.   

Form relationships with people in which you share a deep affinity; people that you connect with at the level of the soul. These are the only relationships that can be harmoniously everlasting.  These are the only relationships that will withstand the test of time and can survive through trials and tribulations inflicted upon us in this world for these connections are divine and otherworldly.  Wait for the connection that inspires you to heal and dive into the depths of self-love. Wait for the connection that inspires you to change, and break away from those chains so that you can move into the realms of liberation.